I had thought that apologizing was a straightforward act,
but I now realize that it is a nuanced art form. We’ve all heard the ‘mistakes were made’
version, usually issued by politicians who attempt to insert a layer of passive
voice insulation between themselves and their screw ups. There is also the ever present conditional
apology which by definition falls short of complete responsibility
acceptance. The template here is: “I’m
sorry for my oversight which wouldn’t have happened if….”
The Gettysburg Address - Silly Remarks?
There have been several apologies in the news recently. First President Obama offered a faux mea
culpa with regard to his indisputable and repeated ‘misrepresentations’ on his
broken promise that we could all keep our own doctors and health insurance
plans. Here’s what he said on November 7th.
“I am sorry that they are finding themselves in this
situation based on assurance they got from me.”
Finding themselves?
Really? I grade this as beyond lame
on the apology scale.
CBS’s flagship and enduring news magazine 60 Minutes
apologized for using a source on a Benghazi piece who was a liar. “We were wrong to put him on the air,” said
Lara Logan a few days prior to airing a formal apology. The latter included: “It was a mistake to include
him in our report. For that, we are very
sorry.” While some have criticized this
apology as inadequate, I am more lenient here.
They admitted they screwed up, apologized and didn’t blame anyone for
their mess up. Sure, they could have
fallen harder on their sword or fired a few folks, but I think they crossed the
minimum standard for contrition and acceptance of responsibility.
Recently, a newspaper issued a
retraction for comments published 150 years ago. The Patriot-News, a Pennsylvania newspaper
earlier this month issued a retraction for referring to Lincoln’s Gettysburg
Address as ‘silly remarks’. Their recent
editorial included the statement: “The Patriot-News regrets the error.” I congratulate them on reaching this
belated, enlightened position. They
certainly cannot be accused of a rush to judgment. Let’s look for other retractions from them
for other errant opinions they published in the 19th century.
Martin Bashir, issued 2 minute on air apology on MSNBC for a diatribe against Sarah Palin that shattered the network's already low threshold for decency and fairness. While the apology seemed genuine, most of us would have lost our jobs for similar behavior.
Martin Bashir, issued 2 minute on air apology on MSNBC for a diatribe against Sarah Palin that shattered the network's already low threshold for decency and fairness. While the apology seemed genuine, most of us would have lost our jobs for similar behavior.
What should doctors do when we make a mistake? Of course, from a moral perspective, there is
no controversy . We should do what we expect others to do. When we err, we should admit it
and apologize for it. Of course, some
errors are trivial and do not require us to march into the
confessional. If a patient receives
liquid diet when a soft diet was ordered, the world will continue to spin. No foul here. But substantive errors must be disclosed.
The dilemma for physicians is fear that admission of error,
which is morally required, may be used as a cudgel if the physician is sued for
medical malpractice, which is an unfair arena. Personally, I
believe that this concern that apologizing will increase legal risk is exaggerated
and that a genuinely contrite physician may reduce legal vulnerability by
explaining candidly what went wrong. It should be
self-evident that an adverse event or a mistake is not tantamount to
medical negligence, but so many misunderstand this. Nevertheless,
physicians should choose their words carefully when disclosing medical errors
to patients and their families.
Many states have physician apology laws that state that
expressions of regret are not admissible in medical malpractice trials. These laws are narrowly crafted. If the physician’s statement goes beyond
expressions of regret and empathy, it is admissible.
Inadmissible: “I’m very sorry that this complication occurred
and that a second surgery will be necessary."
Very Admissible: I’m
sorry that I nicked the spleen and I had to remove it.”
So, how was this post?
Verbose? Self-serving? Tedious?
Factual errors? Arrogant? If so, don’t blame me. Sometimes, mistakes are made.
I've had a couple of physicians apologize to me. If one of them hadn't moved out of the area I would still be his patient. The other 2, I'll leave when I'm dead. If they are honest enough with themselves and with me, then I can trust them with no second thoughts. I do all I can to promote them.
ReplyDeleteI've had a couple that didn't and I'm working with the competition docs and let people know the bad times I've had with them.
Medicine still involves trust.
You sound like a very reasonable patient. If you live in the Cleveland area and need a gastroenterologist, look me up!
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